Samstag, 28. September 2013
Homophobia is actually a Phobia
lavender lacrimosa shalott, 22:08h
Until recently I thought Homophobia wasn't actually a phobia because it didn't really mean "being afraid of gay people" but rather "just hating gay people for no reason". I thought there are two kinds of homophobes: those who are gay themselves but are afraid to admit it so they envy gay people for having the strengh to be themselves. And those who are just too stupid to think properly, so they just say what they think will make them seem "cool".
But two days ago I thought about it again and came to the conclusion that there is a kind of homophobia that is actually a phobia: namely the fear of losing power. For years, white heterosexual men where the only ones who were privileged to run a buisness, marry whoever they want to, start a family and own a house. Then, women and black/coloured people also got the same rights, so if gay people now also had all those rights, they woulnd't have a lot of people left to look down on. Because, sadly, this is a part of human nature. Humans don't only want to be good, they want to be better than others.
The woman next door doesn't only want big boobs, she wants bigger boobs than her neighbour with the pretty face. The guy in the Ferrari doesnt only want an expensive car, he wants a car thats more expensiv than the Mercedes of his ex-highschool collegue. Humans always want to be seen as better than someone else, because they desire to be admired. But the reason for wanting to be better than others isn't only because of the aim to be admired, but also the simple fact,that people don't want to lose something that is important to them, may it be a thing, person, or the image society has of them.
The woman next door wants bigger boobs, because her husband seems to have an affair with the pretty-faced neighbour. The guy in the Ferrari wants an expensive car so people won't see that his parents were actually very poor. And the homophobe hates on gay people because he doesn't want society to see, that heterosexual men aren't any better than everyone else.
But two days ago I thought about it again and came to the conclusion that there is a kind of homophobia that is actually a phobia: namely the fear of losing power. For years, white heterosexual men where the only ones who were privileged to run a buisness, marry whoever they want to, start a family and own a house. Then, women and black/coloured people also got the same rights, so if gay people now also had all those rights, they woulnd't have a lot of people left to look down on. Because, sadly, this is a part of human nature. Humans don't only want to be good, they want to be better than others.
The woman next door doesn't only want big boobs, she wants bigger boobs than her neighbour with the pretty face. The guy in the Ferrari doesnt only want an expensive car, he wants a car thats more expensiv than the Mercedes of his ex-highschool collegue. Humans always want to be seen as better than someone else, because they desire to be admired. But the reason for wanting to be better than others isn't only because of the aim to be admired, but also the simple fact,that people don't want to lose something that is important to them, may it be a thing, person, or the image society has of them.
The woman next door wants bigger boobs, because her husband seems to have an affair with the pretty-faced neighbour. The guy in the Ferrari wants an expensive car so people won't see that his parents were actually very poor. And the homophobe hates on gay people because he doesn't want society to see, that heterosexual men aren't any better than everyone else.
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